Dear community, We need to talk about how we protect sexual predators such as R.Kelly….
We hope that you approach this content with understand and maturity. Thank you.
- Generalizations may lie ahead. “Not all” is to be assumed. If we mean “all” we will say “all”.
- For the sake of time, we cannot dissect every sexual assault case or every fine detail pertaining to sexual assault regardless of if it is related to the black community.
- This episode largely surrounds the R. Kelly.
- Look out for future episodes related to rape culture and victim blaming to cover the topic more in depth.
- We understand that men experience sexual assault too. This particular episode is not about men’s sexual assault.
NOBODY WANTS TO ACTUAL PLACE THE PERSON AT FAULT, AT FAULT
Why are celebrity predators such as R.Kelly Protected?
- Defensive. We as black people are attacked by society often and feel we need to protect ourselves at all times. This can cause us to defend one another even when we are wrong.
- Sensitive to policing. We are quite sensitive to policing and getting into legal trouble. Many of us assume that if a successful black man is facing allegations that can land him in jail or prison then those allegations can be attributed to an underlying racist agenda to “tear a black man down”. Racist agendas against black men are very real however, that isn’t always the case. * Cough, cough** R . Kelly.
- Contributions & Culture. We’ve grown up with R. Kelly. His music is always a part of the family reunion so we have a nostalgia and emotional tie to him and his work. In our brains, he’s like an old friend and nobody wan’ts to see their old friend as a predator. So what do we do? We use his cultural contributions as a way to make him seem as if he can do no harm. Denial, denial, denial.
- Separation. As R Kelly’s ex- wife , Andrea Kelly, said : “You make like R. Kelly but you won’t like Robert.” We have difficulty separating the man from his work and we fail to consider that a celebrity’s TV persona is just that, a persona and NOT an accurate representation of their true selves.
So how can we separate the individual from their cultural contributions?
- See him as Robert Kelly, the predator. Even if you start calling him “Robert Kelly”, that may help because you are separating a person from their celebrity persona.
If were going to hold regular people accountable for things that they do , the things that they say, …. that are wrong then we need to give celebrities the same energy.
- Know that every stream indirectly funds R.Kelly’s ability to continue abuse. Money has made things very easy for him.